Apr 13, 2014

Making Modest out of Immodest

Tonight was Prom night.  This night has been a year in the making, kinda.  We found a dress last year on clearance, it was a $109 and marked down to just $22 buckaroos.  Miss M wasn't even old enough to date at the time but she loved the color and it had potential and we knew that at some point in the future she'd have the opportunity to wear it.  

The problem though, despite the great price, it was not modest.  

Now, I know my idea of a modest dress is probably different from most.  I've seen lots of girls wearin' similar things.  Strapless dresses seem to be the norm but I've never been the norm and that's how I like it.  I fully believe that the way you dress sends a message, good or bad, it sends a message.  What message would my 16 year old daughter, with cut-out pieces on the side and a strapless dress be sending?  Not the kind of message I want her to be sending, that's for sure.  

She's beautiful, talented, smart, and amazing and she doesn't need to dress in less to get attention - period!  And, if she did, is that attention the kind of attention she wants?  I hope not.

Also, our church encourages our youth (and adults too) to dress modestly.  We have a booklet that is for teenagers called For The Strength of Youth that talks about a lot of different areas on how to be exemplar youth in God's eyes.  One of the topics is dress and appearance.  I love that it breaks down the reasons why modesty is important and I agree whole heartily with what it says.

Any way....  my point.  Here's the dress before (yes, she is wearing a shirt under it, you know, for modesty reasons)


The dress had lattice work up the sides that showed bare skin underneath - not so good.  
Those areas needed to be filled in. 



It was also strapless.  It had these two little, itty bitty straps but we found out those were for hanging the dress up on a hanger, not really straps.  Plus, the dress was way too long.  Even if she wore heels, which she didn't want to, it was too long.

So, we had a challenge.  How do we fix these issues without it looking like we did.  It kind of bugs me to see dresses that have sleeves sewn on in different colors.  You can just tell it didn't come that way originally.  I wanted to avoid that.


We decided to cut the bottom off the dress, it was too long anyway, and then I took the fabric and I made some sleeves.  It wasn't easy though as I only had really small strips of fabric to work with.  


I took two pieces/strips of fabric and sewed them together then carefully put the tulle over it to make a really wide strap.  Next I used what was left to make a cap sleeve.  I didn't have a pattern, just did my best to use what I had and it worked.


Here she is with her the sleeves finished.  It doesn't look that bad, right?  And not once did I use my glue gun to put it together.  Soldering Iron, yes.  Glue gun, no!  That's a big thing for me. 

Also, it's not shown, but the sides that were bare, I left the lacing but added matching fabric underneath it.  Too bad I didn't get a picture of that.  The fabric filled in the emptiness quite nicely and it looked like it was there all along.  


The dress also felt a little bland so I used me mad skillz and made her a belt.  Recognize the flowers?  They are just larger versions of my little itty-bitty hair flowers It was pretty simple to make the belt, I just got the measurement needed and went to work.  The finishing touch on the belt was adding the flowers. 


It's cute with the belt, right?!  I think so anyway, and so did she.  Plus, it tied in nicely with her pearl jewelry.


Can you believe I failed to get a full length photo of just her. So, this one will have to do.  Over all, the end result is way better than the dress in it's original form.  Miss M loved it and was comfortable in it.  The sleeves not only added modesty but they added comfort too.  No need to keep pulling up the dress.

And there you have it, that's how I made a modest prom dress out of an immodest dress.

19 comments:

Trisha said...

You did a wonderful job, the dress is much prettier with the sleeves and belt! I hope your daughter had a wonderful prom.

LyndaKay said...

A gorgeous dress for a very lovely girl. Her hair is fabulous!

Linda said...

Oh, I love it much more this way than the original dress! She's beautiful. Way to go mom...and daughter!

Mindy said...

Well done!! Yay for mad skills! She looks gorgeous. Hope she had a good time.

Panya said...

What did you do with the lacing?

Anonymous said...

You did such a gorgeous job with this dress! My son's girlfriend's always wore very reasonable dresses but I used to look at some of their friends and wonder what in the world their parents were thinking when they let them out of the house. And....what exactly they thought their dates were thinking about all night when the girls had so little on. Good for you for encouraging modesty!

Linda L. said...

Doesn't look bad?? It's gorgeous!! Nobody would ever know you changed anything. I'm with you on the modesty issue - young girls seem to be showing more and more at younger and younger ages.

countercrafts said...

Way to go Mom!! You and your girls will be glad that you held them to a higher standard, when they have grown up a little more. It is worth it to be strict and loving!

Emily S said...

This is fantastic! It turned out so much prettier than the original. Great job!

newenglandgardenandthread said...

You did a spectacular job with the end result looking professional and resulting in a more beautiful dress for such a beautiful young 'lady.'

gossip_me_maybe said...

I love the alterations you made to Miss M's dress. The floral belt is my favorite part! Great job ... your daughter looked beautiful.

Anonymous said...

Congratulations on a wonderful job on the dress but more importantly for raising a daughter who doesn't consider "hooker clothes" appropriate.

Kristin Whitehead said...

You did a beautiful job on the dress! And your daughter looked so pretty! :)

Vic Fetui said...

Absolutely beautiful! And the dress was pretty too! :)

Kim-the-girl said...

That really turned out stunning! You're absolutely right that it was a little bland before the addition of the belt! It's totally a wow! dress now. Modesty is so worthwhile, I can tell you firsthand how much difference a supportive and talented mom can make! Good for both of you!

Johanna said...

Beautiful alterations! Your daughter is so lucky to have a mom who can do this so well. And I agree - the dress is prettier with the sleeves and belt. Beautiful girl!

The Lovely One said...

Love it! The alterations made it super cute and appropriate! I'm so tired of seeing prom dresses that look more like you're going out to the the club!

Anonymous said...

you did a great job on the dress.

Anonymous said...

My mom did the same for my prom dress (purchased from a thrift store as we had very little money) about 20 years ago. A snip here, a tuck there, and all of a sudden I had a slightly shorter dress with cap sleeves!